The Mental Health Janitors
Faith-based trauma recovery for veterans, first responders, and the families who carry it with them.
The Mental Health Janitors is hosted by Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez, a Marine 1st ANGLICO veteran who went from homeless and suicidal to founding a veteran nonprofit and a suicide-prevention tech company, and Jessica "Doc Jess" Burgans, an Army combat medic and Iraq War veteran who is now a Licensed Mental Health Counselor.
Between them: two combat deployments, two PTSD diagnoses, and a clinical license. They've been where the audience is, and one of them is qualified to treat it.
Every Tuesday they take on PTSD, ADHD, anxiety, marriage under strain, sleep that won't come, and the specific weight carried by people who ran toward things everyone else ran from.
The conversations are honest, Scripture-informed, and practical, real tools you can use this week, not platitudes. If you've been told to just get over it, or you've been quietly white-knuckling it for years, this is the show that says the thing out loud.
New episodes every Tuesday
The Mental Health Janitors
The Biggest Relationship Red Flag? Not Showing Up When It Matters
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What does it really mean to show up for someone you love?
In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Sgt. Q and Doc Jess unpack a viral Reddit story that sparks a much bigger conversation about healthy relationships, accountability, childhood trauma, and emotional maturity.
When one partner chooses a night out over showing up during a medical emergency, it raises difficult questions. Is this simply a mistake, or does it reveal something deeper about priorities, trust, and commitment? And when someone hurts the people they love, can childhood trauma explain their behavior without excusing it?
From relationship red flags and self awareness to narcissistic traits rooted in unresolved trauma, this episode challenges listeners to look beyond excuses and ask one of the hardest questions of all. Am I taking responsibility for the way I treat others?
If you've ever questioned a relationship, struggled with accountability, or wondered how your past influences your present, this conversation is for you.
🎧 Tune in to explore why accountability is one of the hardest parts of healing, and how taking ownership can change the way you show up for the people who matter most.
Episode Highlights:
00:00 Welcome to Mental Health Janitors
03:18 Pastor Tony and Protecting Your Family
19:12 The Reddit Story That Started the Conversation
27:45 What It Means to Show Up in a Crisis
41:26 Accountability or Excuses?
53:08 Can Childhood Trauma Lead to Narcissistic Traits?
59:48 Why Healing Requires Honest Self Reflection
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